Lets Not Forget

29 May

Memorial Day… A day to remember all those who paid the ultimate sacrifice! These individuals volunteered to fight for our country to ensure America remains free and full of opportunities. I will hang my flag with pride and think of all these heroes! While at the same time I will also think of all the widows who will shed tears and do their best to make it through this day. Yes this day is about our fallen service members, but as Military spouses I hope we can also remember the often forgotten spouse who will be spending this day missing a husband or wife.

I read an article the other day (http://www.cnn.com/2011/US/05/26/cnnheroes.davis.military.widows/index.html) about a woman who lost her husband and felt completely alone. People waved a hand at her grieving by telling her she was so young and she would find someone. This poor woman! Regardless of anyone’s age, losing a spouse would be devastating. We all grieve differently and we all find our own ways to move on. This particular woman found no one to talk to that understood what she was going through. She went to support groups, but found the women were all older and not military affiliated. She gathered her strength and created a support group geared towards young military widows. I am glad to see her group has been a huge success and many widows now have a group of women they can talk to or even sit in silence with knowing they understand.  Once again, the military spouse connection remains true and solid.

In a way, a military widow is similar to a spouse with a deployed service member. They are alone and trying to balance life. All the struggles we face while our spouse is gone are also daily struggles of our military widows. Luckily I can e-mail my husband when I need to vent or I need advice about raising our children.

Please take the time to reach out to a military widow, young or “older.” Many of these individuals do not want your pity or “I’m sorry.” Just like a spouse with a deployed service member, these women benefit most from you reaching out to help. Offer to cut their grass, fix their child’s bike, or anything you can think of. Invite them to your Memorial Day BBQ and if they feel it would be too hard to attend, then bring them a plate of food and stay for a glass of wine. Just do your best to show you have not forgotten them. They are and will always remain a Military Spouse!

Happy Memorial Day!

I enjoyed this poem and thought I would share:

We cherish too, the Poppy red
That grows on fields where valor led,
It seems to signal to the skies
That blood of heroes never dies.

~Moina Michael~

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One Response to “Lets Not Forget”

  1. Kelly Larson, MBA May 29, 2011 at 7:33 pm #

    ‘Good Grief Camp’ unites kids of fallen service members. A wonderful resource for families of fallen service members! http://www.cnn.com/2011/US/05/29/good.grief.camp/index.html

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